Should I stop cross dressing?
I’m a fourteen year old male and i wear my sisters sisters clothes (tops, pants, dresses, skirts, panties, bras, etc). And i recently found out that its against God (Duet 21:5). I like to do it, but I’m thinking of stopping after holloween (Holloween being one final shin-dig) but i don’t know if i should (or not). Again, i really like to do it, and I’m planning on telling my sister soon so she can help me with make up and maybe buy me stuff (any tips on how to do this?).
sorry, its Duets 22:5
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Valerie
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First: I don’t think that Deut 22:5 means what you think it mean. Many Jews think it refers to the reasons why a man or woman crossdresses. For instance many think it refers to breaking into women’s quarters for fornication, or avoiding military service.. In any case, the Jews had a feast of Purin which incorporated some crossdressing, so it is unlikely that the verse condemns crossdressing for no reason.
Second: I don’t think you’ll be able to stop crossdressing even if you wanted. You crossdress because your brain is hard-wired to release neurotransmitters that give you a sensation of well-being when you crossdress. These neurotransmitters affect the reward centers of your brain, hence it mimics the addiction response.
Third: As a crossdresser you will have to control it, or it will control you. As a Christian you are to practice self-control.
Fourth: There are different kinds of crossdressers. There are those who want to be women. They work hard at creating a female alter-ego, give "her" a feminine name. They over-dose on make-up, wear outrageously sexy clothes that no respectful women would wear. Then they stimulate themselves and say, "this is what is feels like to be a woman".. aaakk, I just threw up inside my mouth.
Then there are good crossdressers. They like to wear women’s clothes but they don’t pretend to be women. They just like the feel of the feminine clothes. It’s comfortable and they enjoy the sensation of well-being. They are not proud of their crossdressing so they keep it private, and don’t do it very often. They usually get married and have children. They are good husband and they work with their wives to keep reasonable limits on their crossdressing. There are some girls who like to see a lean hard masculine body trimmed with some feminine clothes. It makes an attractive contrast. I appreciate his taste in clothes and he even makes some clothes for me!
dont stop doing it just because a relgion doesnt agree with it. If you enjoy it then do it.
Oh, wow. Well, I’ve never heard that it’s against God but I’ll look that up…didn’t the guys wear togas and sh*t back then, like dresses? Haha. Nvm sorry.
Um…I’d tell your sister soon…and if it’s who you are, I’m sure you’re fine.
Edit: Just looked it up.
"Then the priests, the sons of Levi, are to come near; for they have been marked out by the Lord your God to be his servants and to give blessings in the name of the Lord; and by their decision every argument and every blow is to be judged…"
What the heck does that have to do with cross dressing??
dont stop…god did say whoever belied in him would have eternal life, and there are many transsexual Christians
If you want to stop, then do so.
But if you want to continue, and are just stopping because someone else says it’s ‘wrong’, it’s a bad idea.
I’m not saying that you can’t do what you want- ultimately, it’s your decision.
But if you enjoy wearing women’s clothing, you shouldn’t feel pressured to stop.
if you really like to do it, don’t stop because of some little bible verse. if it makes you happy, and it’s not hurting anyone else, go for it.
you might want to break it to your sister gently…maybe don’t dive straight in with "i wear your bras" because she could be a little freaked. maybe mention that you like the idea of wearing a skirt, and ask her for advice. ease in gently, and only if you’re sure she won’t freak about it.
and don’t let the bible keep you from what you enjoy.
well he first off i say if you really like doing it dont stop….keep doin it if dat wat makes u happy….and hey the bible is the hardest thing to abide by…it still doesnt matter because he will still love you…so hey if i were you i would keep doing it if that wat floats ur boat….dont quit…
dont stop because of religion if u enjoy it then do it
Most of us who cross dress do so because it turns us on. if that is your case then you will not stop just because the Bible says so.
Your plans for the future with your sister predict this.
Most of us do not do this in public until we get so good at it that no one can tell the difference. It can be quite embarrassing and sometimes very dangerous to do otherwise.
Your at the very Early years of sexuality , the decisions you take and make now will birth , into adulthood .
Stop it for a while , and if by the time you are 17-18 and still have that desire , then you know that it is you , and not just a fluke or early experimentation .
Are hearts are strange creatures , the more they do something , the more our heart wants it .
Allow yourself the chance to form more normal , before taking that path , because once you choose a path , their is no turning back .
Adam and evil did not get a second chance , once a door is open and you walk through , at a certain point it slams shut .
The type of clothing you wear DOES NOT make you an ‘evil’ or ‘sinful’ person.
It’s just cloth and fabric, there is nothing ‘sinful’ about clothing.
The person inside of the clothing is all that matters!
I say wear whatever feels right for you! =D
Edit: This brings to mind the ‘Don’t judge a book by it’s cover’ expression, it can be applied to this situation.
You mean Deut 22:5
Believe it or not, that’s kind of out of context. That verse says that, because God did not want women dressing as men to join the army, or men dressing as women to get out of duty.
Well, if you do plan on stopping, I wouldn’t waste your money by buying new clothes. Just keep going with the sister’s clothes. I would tell her, too. Tell her she can have some fun with it. Make sure Halloween is a good time too. Have fun.
Personally, I encourage you to be yourself and keep doing what you’re doing and love yourself for it. God does not hate cross dressers, God loves you for you are; everything about you, including cross dressing.
You should not let the fear of something keep you from doing things you want to do.
if it feels good to you, then do it.
Its upto you dontr do it because you are forced to
If it’s a fetish for you, it’s a fetish. God does not care whether you dress up as a girl privately to get off. God cares how you treat other people and if you are true to yourself. Are you a good person? Then you’re fine!
As to wearing your sister’s clothes, stop it. You wouldn’t be happy if SHE went through YOUR stuff, would you? Go get some girls’ clothes of your own, at a Goodwill or Walmart on the cheap (say it’s for your girlfriend, no one will ask, just don’t try it on in the store, haha). Don’t come out to your sister until you’ve STOPPED wearing her stuff!
Good luck.
the bible is not god. the bible was written by man, it cannot be the final word unless men claim to be god.
if you like to cross dress, go ahead and do it. its part of who you are.
You should stop cross dressing because you realize how awful you look in a woman’s clothes not because you read and took out of context some passage in a book.
No, hun.
I’m an Atheist, so I hope you don’t think I’m being too arrogant here when I say this.
You are who you are. If you believe there’s a God out there that made you then remember that he made you inside as well as out and if you’ve been born with this feeling that you need to cross-dress, then surely that’s what he’s intended.
Perceptions of transgendered people are improving all the time, so there’s less and less to be scared about. Be who you are hun and don’t let anyone try to change you
Good luck out there
NO, there is NO "God" – & cross-dressing hurts no one. Caution with your sister though, she might freak-out & tell or blackmail you ! You don’t want to stop, so you won’t stop. But you might want to start getting your own ‘things’ because as you grow, you’ll start to stretch out your sister’s clothes & get her pissed off (whether she ‘knows’ your secret or not) !
I have to admit I don’t understand these types of feelings. But if this is causing you such consternation, perhaps you should talk to someone about it. Maybe your guidance counselor at school? Meanwhile, I would be careful who I tell this to. Kids can be very cruel.
Yes.
LOL Do what makes you happy.
Don’t automatically come out about it to your sister, or she might reject you.
First introduce the idea of your friend doing it, and see what she says about it, if its possitive, tell her about you, if it isn’t- don’t tell her & Find some friends who have the same interests as you
Don’t stop because some dude 2000 years ago who says so… The bible was written by men, men who lived in times completely different from now.
Crossdressing is ok… you will need to come to terms with it and may even push it away for a time, Believe me it will be with you your whole life.
Coming out to your sister could be a good thing if she accepts you… if your close. Stay away from here clothes tho because she will not like it… its disrespectful. She can be a great teacher for your makeup and look. Have fun with it and keep positive. A femenine spirit is a treasure and not a disorder.
"Because God did not want women dressing as men to join the army or men dressing as women to get out of duty". That made me think would God allow women to join the army if they dressed womanly? Or would God allow men to get out of duty if they dressed manly? I would say NO! (I’m no God but thats what i had in mind). In a case such as urs, i would translate Deut 22:5 this way. That all human should show up as who they were made. If u’re a man,then act like one,so for woman. U really shouldnt wear women’s clothing if u’re a men, women shouldnt wear men’s clothing either. Well,maybe not too much for women since we had this fashion. But men wearing women’s would be extremely different. So IF u believe in God, then STOP DOING IT!!! As far as i know, anything that go against God is turning us on, and for that reason probably u wouldnt stop. Then again, if u dont believe in God, and u see what u’re doing as human rights? Go ahead. Just do as u pleased. But i say, think about it. U still have a wide range of chance to stop. All the best!!
No, there is no harm to cross dressing. Though if possible, you might want to get your own clothes instead of borrowing your sister’s
Besides, don’t go by the Bible, the Bible also says the earth is flat and it also says a parent can kill a disobedient child. Really, you should try reading the bible – cover to cover, you’d be surprised by some of the things you’ll find.
Hi… May I say, as a c/d – t/v myself, I wouldn’t even "consider" purging" stopping, quitting, cease – or call it what you want..,
If you’re thinking of following the "writings" of people and books, wasn’t it Davey Crockett who once said "Make sure you’re right – then go ahead…"
And what about the words of the famous "Jiminy Cricket" who once said "Let your conscience be your guide"…
If you are going to try and live by the so-called "Good Book" you wouldn’t / shouldn’t even want to get out of bed. for all their "Do Not".!!!
You’ve seen what the responses to your inquiry were…Stay away from the confessional booth too..!!!
And how much do you trust your sister that you’d want to confide in her re your crossdressing..? It’s your sister true, BUT…..
I can only advise so much to you as to how to handle all of your situation,
If you’re serious enough about your crossdressing, you can learn how to do your own makeup and accumulate / buy your own wardrobe without the help of others…
Enjoy
Regards,
Rachelle In High Heels
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