My girlfriend has gender identity problem. She loves to hang out with boys and act like them since she was little but at the same time, she wants to be a princess and be treated like one (even now). She loves loves loves to dress up in girl clothing, especially princess-like dresses when she was at home or out with me and act like a total princess. If she has to go out alone, she dresses and acts like a boy. But then even before she met me, she loved to take nude pictures of herself and exposed her feminine part when she was alone in the bathroom. When I ask why, she said she was not comfortable being a girl around her guy friends. When I asked what she wanted to be, a boy or a girl, for quite sometime she kept telling me she wanted to be my princess and she hated that I joked she was my prince sometimes. She loves chivalry in which I play her knight. One time she said she wanted a sex change, but most of the time she said she didn’t know and she was confused, that she half wanted to remain a girl, half wanted to be a guy, but if she would be a guy, she wanted to be a gay guy who loves to cross-dressing as a woman. She wants so badly to give birth and be a mother and a house-wife but sometimes she would tell me she wanted to be a motherly father. I know it doesn’t even make sense. Last time I asked what part of a man body did she like so much, she simply told me she wanted to know how it would feel to have a penis, but she wouldn’t want to risk her vag and if she has a sex change, she may not want to stay with it, only know how it would feel to be in different gender. She read a lot of gay porn so I wonder if it affects her and all the wanting to be a guy is just her fantasy. Other thing would be that she wanted to be part of the male community and have silly lots of fun like a male since she thinks guys are fun to hang out with and be part of. She also used to go online and disguise herself as a guy to flirt with girls AND guys and it all started when she started to role play as a male character from a comic. Not only that she is confused but I am confused myself! Please help!

My husband told me 1 month before our wedding that he likes to dress like a woman. That was 7 months ago. I thought I could deal with it. He is now wearing my lingerie every night to be and paints his nails everyday and wears eye make up. I’m the only one that knows except for his cross dress friends he met online. I love him very much and he loves me too. I don’t want to leave him I just want to find a way to deal with this. He is 56 and has been doing this for the past 7 years.
I really didn’t know how often he liked to do this. I didn’t want to call off the wedding, because he is my true love I just know he is. I’m 45 and I have been in several relationships and this one was the one and I knew it immediately. He is a good person and would do anything for anyone. He knows other cross dressers and they have meetings but I haven’t told him to go and not sure if I want him to yet. I have heard that as long as I keep control of the situation then it will be ok, but I was married to a control freak and I never want to be one. So you see there are so many ways to look at this situation. Believe me he isn’t sick and I dont’ think he is confused. He just is really comfortable wearing women’s clothes and makeup.

This usually isn’t a problem, since I don’t go out much. But every now and then the day I go out happens to coincide with my cross dressing day. I don’t know then if I should use the men’s room, or the ladies’. I don’t want to create a scene or break any laws, so which should I use?

What if a straight woman likes dressing up like a guy? No fantasies about other women.