So here is the background.

Since the time we are married I wanned to share cross dressing with my wife. But i haven’t got the guts to tell her to dress me up like a girl. My male ego steps in may be and its not happening.Well about 8 months ago my wife out of the blue slipped her night dress on me. I wore it willingly and acted all excited. she then made me remove it. A month after that she made me wear her sexy panties and a top..she had a look at me an again made me remove it.So don’t know if she likes it or not or if she made me wear it just for fun.. ok so one day while we were lying on the bed an talking..she mentioned that she wants to dress me up completely like a girl. I was excited an what I did is one day while we got back drunk from a party.. I wore one of her dresses infront of her.. she saw me and immidiately made me remove her dress.. So I get mixed signals here. Some times I feel she want me to dress.. an when I wear her dress she makes me remove immidiately. So what do I do? How do I get her into the cross dressingressing scenario I need help, what do u guys think! My wife an I are both 28 years old an good loooking. I can pull off a feminine look too.. Need help.. How should I initiate the topic? or Whats the best way I can crossdress with her? I love her a lot and I wanna share this with her. Please advice.

My boyfriend of over a year told me today that when he was 15 he used to dress in his sisters clothes when he was alone. He claims that he felt ashamed straight after but it felt comforting because he didn’t feel loved and so dressing as a girl made him feel loved. The phase only went on for a few months but in the first month he was doing it every other day. He said that he liked the feel of tights and when I asked him if he preferredwomen’ss clothes he said no and Ibelievee him, I also asked him if he preferred men but he said hedoesn’tt and I believe him. It was just such a shock. He also said that at the time he was really depressed and even had the odd suicidal thought. I asked him to choose something from my wardrobe to wear today and he didn’t know what to do so I got a dress for him and gave him some tights. I was so upset when he had an erection! He said that it had happened before, I justcouldn’ttbelievee that it was up so much, fair enough I had been sat on his lap cuddling him, but it normally takes longer than that. I’m just wondering whether it really could be that he was so alone and not confident enough to talk to girls. He’s never really had anyone talk to him properly about masturbating or sex either which I also considered being the problem. It’s just so upsetting and shocking, I really don’t know what tobelievee or even think!! Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated. I want to marry this guy and he’s told me that he wants to marry me too, I don’t want us to be over, but I don’t want to be thinking about this all of the time or it to be awkward for ages. My first thought would be to end it but I’m hoping there’ll be something to get us through it.

I am a christian and my marriage vows are sacred to me. My first marriage ended after 27 yrs and serious injuries. I remarried in 2006 to a man I had known for 20 yrs as a good friend of the family and dated for 8 yrs after the divorce. I thot everything was great.

2 yrs ago I made a bet with my husband, never believing he would really follow thru and was prepared with an alternative, but he did and dressed up as a woman and took me out to dinner. Altho I was a little uncomfortable, I went along with the "gag". Several months later I found out he was still dressing up and going out to dinner and movies "by himself." I had problems with that and followed my pastor’s advise to talk to my husband and let him know how uncomfortable I was. I also told my husband that I realized it had started as my joke and that he had beat me at my own game. (Pastor also said my husband’s soul was in peril but I can’t find the biblical passages to back that up). My husband agreed to stop the cross dressing.

On 5/5/11 on one of his trips home (he works out of town 4-6 mo. a year) I accidently found his stash of women’s clothing–including undies,bras,nylons–8 pairs of shoes & makeup. I confronted him. He said this has been going on since high school. That it wasn’t me it was him. He denies that there is anyone else–male or female. He denies being gay. He told me that this was what he did to get away from the job and stress. He doesn’t seem to have any feminine characteristics when he is home and to tell the truth he didn’t have any feminine characteristics when he "dressed up" and took me out to dinner. He does not cross dress when home because he doesn’t want his best friends to know.

I am trying to accept this as part of him but I don’t know if I can trust him now. I’m not sure this is something he can give up since he has already said once that he would and didn’t. I don’t know if this is an obsession, a fetish, or gender confusion.

I’ve tried to research this on the internet but keep coming up with all these sites for cross dressers wanting "relationships" with other cross dressers or sites selling clothing for cross dressers.

At the end of my first marriage, I found out that 1st husband had been cheating on me and I realize that my unease and distrust has a lot to do with that betrayal. Is there anyone else dealing with a cross dressing spouse? If so, what can I expect next?

I don’t feel I can go back to my pastor because of the things he said about "soul in peril". I’m not ready to give up on this marriage. I’m just really scared.